Friday, July 1, 2016

(un)wise attention

This topic is so important and at the same time has so many implications and side-tracks to consider, that I will probably come back to it in later blog-entries to add nuances and other fine-attunements that will be overlooked here.
What did the Buddha mean by this term: wise attention? Why was it so central to his teaching that it pops up in so many places in the Nikayas? And how is it cultivated not just in meditation but in everyday life activities?
The term wise attention refers to the careful choosing on which things, topics or characteristics we focus on in our minds. What to think about, what to ponder upon, to hein in on and what to put aside, leave behind or lay down for now, dependent on the results this focus has on our state of mind. So mindfulness is central to being even able to discern our own state of mind when we engage in different topics, discussions, thoughts and activities. But not just the mind, also how we feel inside our bodies. So this takes quite some practice to learn from our experience through try and error. What is the state of mind when you watch the news? How is your heartrate effected when you see violence in a movie or a romantic scene? What makes you get goosebumps on your upper arms or tickling down your back? How do you feel after you eat? What kinds of food taste great but have unhealthy consequences? What brings short-term sense-gratification but long-term unease or distress? All that and much more is part of practicing wise attention.
When somebody critizised you, what happens in your mind and body when you sit at home hours later, thinking back to the event and following thoughts as: "Who is he/she to tell me that?", "She is so wrong, I am so right!" or "She always does that."? We are so used to having those thoughts in the first place, and allowing them to obesess us, to dwell on them and feeling in the right to do so, that we hardly notice that we are creating our own suffering. The event is long gone, the other person probably doesn't even think about it anymore or maybe not even noticed how offensive or hurtful those words were. But you sit there and not only relive the event time and time again, it even gets distorted and made worse in your mind, than it actually was. One word can cause us to hate somebody intensively for the rest of our lives. And the reason for that is firstly lack of mindfulness and secondly wrong attention. Right and wrong are quite unpopulare in spiritual circles these days, and not without reason. There is no inherent right or wrong in the universe, but in respect to our wellbeing and release from suffering, there are quite sustinct rights and wrongs. The basic question the Buddha asked and that you must ask yourself in every situation is: do I want to suffer or do I want to be free?
Instead of "wrongly" focussing on how stupid or inconsiderate the other person was by saying those things, you have a choice here, to re-direct your focus on the feeling of suffering itself in the body and on the sourse of it. Stepping back and taking a look like that takes a lot of effort and mindfulness. So right this moment there is your choice on how you want to spend the next hours: wallowing in your hurt and making plans of revenge and feeling sorry for yourself OR going into your body and tracking the sensation of hurt, it's center in your stomache, your forehead, your solarplexus, your lower abdomen or your physical heart and purposefully feeling the feeling in all its nuances. This in itself takes all the mental stress away of judging, lamenting and story-telling we are all so used to. I know that there is bound to arise the sense of giving the other person a pass on his wrong behaviour, on giving up one's rightness and loosing one's selfrespect. But again, the really important thing to consider is what are the actual, factual, sense-able consequences for your state of body and mind if you hold on to these? Another way of putting it is, do you want to be happy and free or do you want to be right? The universal answer I heard from anyone I asked that question was: both! But in truth you can't have both. It is either or, whether you like it or not. Because in order for you to be right, there must be somebody wrong. That in itself is a cause of suffering, this sense of separation, this believe in a self that is separate from the other. And apart from that, the one who got set into the wrong by your being right will probably not entirely forget about the issue and seek ways to pay you back by setting you into the wrong and regaining the upper hand.
In this way victorious military invasions in the past and present have always had the bitter taste of having sewn the seeds of future revenge. This can also be taken to a smaller, personal scale or to national, international warfare. But back to the topic of this blogentry.
In your daily life, what do you pay attention to? What do you deem worth of your energy and focus? Are those things conducive to your long term happiness, ease and health or to stress, suffering and dis-ease? In order to answer these questions you need relentless honesty and discernment. Some things that feel easeful or rewarding might actually wield uncomfortable results in the long run. Let's take watching the news.
Right at the beginning I admit that I consciously chose to stop following the news about ten years ago. And my life did not come to a sudden stop and everything I really needed to know came to my knowledge anyhow. Almost everyone I talked about that to, said that they don't want to give up their sense of being informed. That would give them the feeling of closing the eyes to the problems of the world. But you need to carefully consider this. Are the news an actual mirror of what the world is like or is it a small, carefully chosen part of reality certain people want you to see? Who chooses what to show and what to leave out? Why? How many people are interviewed on a certain topic on the street and how many of those actually make it into the program? Again, why? Is there really anything new in the "news" or is it essentially the same stuff that kept the world spinning centuries or even millenia ago?
But the even more important questions are: how does watching the news affect how you see the world and how you feel and how you act? Does it make you feel more at ease, safe and happy or do you get scared or feel despair in regard to the future? Do you grow more loving and compessionate or more distrustful and drawn back? Are you in the present moment when and after you watch the news? There is nothing wrong with being informed and knowing things, if what you get informed about is actually important and unavoidable. How many people develop a sense of powerlessness in regard to solving the economic, ecologic and social problems of our times? Shrugging stuff off, closing their eyes and drifting off through all this overdose of things to care and worry about? How many people know more about happenings on other continents then about what happens right infront of their doorsteps? We know instantly when something explodes in near-east, but read about the death of our neighbour in the newspaper a week later.
So those were two things of many to consider when cultivating wise attention: instead of paying attention to what moved us in negative or positive ways you can refer it back to awareness, sensing the resultant feelings in the body instead of going into the habitual storytelling of the poor me or the grand me. And secondly checking the ways in which societal and cultural habits and conformaties influence our reality, our actions, our views and re-actions. I'll be back for more, but that's a lot to take in for now, I guess.

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